Common Courage is our way of sharing stories. Ours. Yours. And those of the people who make up the CitizenRad community. This post, our very first spotlight, will share some insights into the life of Desmond is Amazing, an eleven year old Brooklyn based drag kid who shows up everyday ready to show his true colors!
For those of you familiar with Desmond is Amazing you will likely be aware that along with the strong support network and large fan base, Desmond also has some haters. Sound familiar? Ever feel like those around you were sinking your ship instead of helping you keep it afloat? Why do we let these people affect us the way we do?
As Theodore Rosevelt said:
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat."
Critics are everywhere, and they get louder when you share your truth and it makes them uncomfortable, or makes them question themselves and their own decisions. It takes strength and courage to rise above and tune that shit out. In recent years, I have been criticized and made to feel deviant because I have come to realize that a monogamous life is not the right fit for me (I actually don't really believe its right for the human race, but that's simply an opinion). And for many years, I listened to those critics and did not live authentically. It took me ten years, with countless ups and downs, trying to find the words, but often failing to. Trying to find a safe space to explore my ideas and true self within my marriage, and failing. Years spent feeling unappreciated and misunderstood, and simply unfulfilled. But finally, after much practise, and self acceptance, and dare I say radical self love, I have found my voice and my strength to own my story and show up for myself.
Desmond is Amazing, at 11 years old he is owning his story and he shows up everyday ready to be himself.
It's never easy being in the spotlight. So Desmond, you really are Amazing - we think you are #BadAss and we are proud to call you one of us: A CitizenRad!
Desmond knows he has haters. People who think he and his parents are not being authentic. Here's what CitizenRad has to say: We can all have our opinions on anyone we come across in life, but we must be in the arena with them, covered with dust, sweat and blood. In the arena offering others our very best self, valiantly fighting for and living for what we truly believe in, making mistakes and rising strong again. We must be in the arena to truly understand the others.